If We’re A Good Fit, Just Email Me

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Ninety percent of this game is half-mental.

Jim Wohlford

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Good Fit

• If you’ve had lots to do with “helping professionals”, email me.

• If you’re over 35 (and older is better) and you’ve had a bit to do with “helping professionals”, email me.

• If you’re misophonic and you want to go supersonic, email me.

• If, in Myers-Briggs, you type as ENFP or INFP or ENFJ or INFJ, email me.

• If it suits you to change things via your thinking, feeling, judging, remembering, imagining, believing and wishing, email me.

• If you’re a “helping professional” yourself, or a budding one, email me. I’ve done a lot of work with therapists and it works great.

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Consider the daffodil. And while you’re doing that, I’ll be over here, looking through your stuff.

Jack Handey

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Not Good Fit

• If you want to be diagnosed with something, choose someone else. I don’t do any diagnonsensing.

• If you’d like to change things via your body (for example: somatic experiencing, focusing, trauma release exercises, breathwork), choose someone else. I take other roads to Rome.

• If you’re looking for help for a family member or your partner or a friend, choose someone else. They have to contact me themselves.

• If you’re under 18, choose someone else. I can’t work with you if you’re not a legal adult.

• If you’ve had very little to do with “helping professionals”, choose someone else. I make a really good third-, or fourth-, or sixteenth- “therapist”, but not a very suitable first-, or second- “therapist”. I’m not sure why. It might be because I often start where others finish.

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Outlaws, like poets, rearrange the nightmare. … There are outlaw maps that lead to outlaw treasures, and I love those maps especially. Unwilling to wait for mankind to improve, the outlaw lives as if that day were here, and I love that most of all. … Outlaws are can openers in the supermarket of life.

Tom Robbins (Still Life with Woodpecker)

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You Can Be Anywhere

• You get to stay at home in private.

• We work by email and video-chat (Skype, Zoom).

• You can work with the best instead of the nearest.

I’m in Brisbane, Australia. Sometimes, it’s outside office hours where you are and just another day at the office for me, and vice versa. I work my nights, weekends and holidays because I work with folks all over the world and everyone’s in different timezones.

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There is a place beyond space, time and thought, but it is very expensive.

Magnificent Ruin

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Admin

We’ll work in blocks of 30 days (that is, a month at a time). I don’t do single sessions.

Working in big blocks provides safe momentum for you. I find that sustained attention on your problem gets much better results, much faster, than the typical therapy experience where, every week for years, you sit on a couch for 50 minutes, cry, pay the bill, and leave.

At the end of the block, we re-evaluate. We can have a break or we can do another block or we can stop.

We’ll either do email-back-and-forth for a month (“about a thousand dollars”) or email-back-and-forth-and-3-long-video-chats for a month (“about two thousand dollars”). The fee depends on the exchange rate (AUD).

Money is infinite and increasing. You can always get more money.

Time is finite and decreasing. You can never get more time.

Think about what the rest of your life is worth.

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We must have a pie. Stress cannot exist in the presence of a pie.

David Mamet (Boston Marriage)

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Promises Yes, Guarantees No

If all change was easy and cheap, you would have changed things long ago, for the price of a cup of coffee with a friend.

I help with the other sorts of problems. And for those, it’s risks that change everything and a guarantee is the opposite of a risk. “Risk” means “doing something different”, not “doing something silly”.

So I can guarantee some promises but I can’t promise any guarantees:

• I’ll take you very seriously, even though, at times, it may not seem like it.

• I’ll tell you the truth as I see it.

• I’ll tell you the smallest thing I think you have to do to change something big.

• I’ll give you lots of what I think you need and a little of the best thing you never knew you always wanted. Not much of it will be what you expect.

• I’ll tell you, at any time, if I think I’m not the best person to assist you.

On guarantees, I echo Al Turtle: “In life, there are none I’ve found. I just do my best, the way you do.”

Of course, day-to-day, my best naturally varies, as does yours. That’s OK. It doesn’t matter how you get there as long as you get there.

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Don’t tell me the problem is difficult. If it were not, it would not be a problem.

Ferdinand Foch, Commander-in-Chief Allied Armies WWI

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